Fostering Secure Attachments

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Create a Secure Base, Foster Emotional Resilience

All of us struggle as we engage in roles or raising children, whether it be as parents, guardians or teachers. While there are many behavioural models that teach us how to use rewards and consequences, The Circle of Security® is a relationship based model - based on 50 years of research - that provides parents and guardians a Road Map to understanding the needs of our child(ren) regardless of age. 

With this Road Map we are better able to determine not only what the child needs, but also how to fill that specific need: to be Delighted In, to be Protected, to be Comforted, or simply to "Be With" the child. 

  • Secure Attachments,
  • Emotional Regulation,
  • Emotional Resilience:

These are the outcomes when we  integrated the CoS® Road Map to all our relationships. 

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This program is the basic The Circle of Security®  parenting education program designed as an eight week program. Kira's Magical Meadow offers other CoS-P offerings that build on this basic foundation with a focus on sensitive children, highly sensitive adults, and the Talent Generation in the workplace. 

8 Interactive & Inspiring Modules

Module One

Introducing the Circle of Security

Because we are hardwired for security the Circle of Security® is always happening in each one of our lives. We all want to feel safe and secure: including our children regardless of age. CoS® is based on 50 years of research, providing resources to parents and caregivers. 

Time: 2 hours

 Exploring Our Children's Needs 

Regardless of age, gender and nationality our children's needs are the same as they move around the Circle of Security®: whether on the top going out to explore the world, or on the bottom coming back in to fill their cup. Our role as parents is to be a Secure Base and a Safe Haven: to be the Hands. 

Time: 2 hours

Module Two

Module Three

"Being With"

How do we handle our children when their emotions run high. While it is easy to find this answer when they are happy, excited or interested, what do we do when they are sad, hurt or confused? How do our children learn to manage their emotions? It is with a strong emotional foundation, learned within the context of a relationship, that they obtain emotional resilience.

Time: 2 hours

Being With Infant

All of us grow and develop when our emotional needs are filled: including infants. Attuning to their need by attending to shifts in their attention and emotion - based on where they are on the Circle of Security®  and their state of being - allows us to create secure attachments.  Witness how "Being With" infants teaches them how to organize their feelings so we can with children of all ages.   

Time: 2 hours

Module Four

Module Five

the Path to Security

Relationships occur when there is more than one person involved. To this point we have focused on the child's needs and placement on the circle. But, where does that leave you as parent and caregiver? We all want the best for our children, but sometimes our personal Shark Music gets in the way of us providing the kind of hands we all want to provide - a Secure Haven - causing miscues. Awareness allows us the ability to choose, to "Be With" and to create a Safe Base. 

Time: 2 hours

Exploring Our Struggles

How do we create relationships in which our children will come to us for help? We must find a balance between being "Bigger and Stronger" with being "Wiser and Kind". We need to discern when to "Take Charge". It is a delicate balance. As parents, guardians and caregivers we need to understand what happens when we lose the wisdom to stay in balance and the impact on our attachment with our children. 

Time: 2 hours

Module Six

Module Seven

Rupture and Repair

Rupture happens in all relationships. Security in a relationship is not based on the absence of ruptures but on the Repair of that rupture.  How does that happen? How do we Repair Ruptures so that attachments are secure? By understanding our children's needs, their placement on the circle, and their state of mind we are better equipped to fill those needs even when we happen to step off the circle. Creating "Time-Ins" make all the difference in the world towards Repairs that strengthen bonds. 

Time: 2 hours

Closing the Circle: Our Circle

By week eight we have created a secure environment to grow. Sharing our "Circle Stories" allows us to see the progress we have made as parents, guardians and caregivers. Thus, it is time to Celebrate our ability to be the kind of parent we want to be: a Secure Base and a Safe Haven with Hands that are Bigger, Stronger, Wiser and Kind because we have attuned ourselves to our children's need when they go out to Explore and come back to Fill-Their-Cups. Quieting our Shark Music and Repairing Ruptures when needed we create secure attachments within the kinds of relationships we have always wanted: not only with our relationships with our children but also in all our relations. 

Time: 2 hours

Module Eight

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